1. They have a losing attitude: People generally get whatever they expect out of life. Expect the worst, and that’s what you’ll get.

2. They quit growing: People are what they are, and they are where they are because of what has gone into their minds.

3. They have no game plan for life: There are two kinds of failures: Those who thought and never did, and those who did and never thought.

4. They are unwilling to change: Some people would rather cling to what they hate rather than embrace what might be better because they are afraid of getting something worse.

5. They fail in relationships with others: People who cannot get along with others will never get ahead in life.

6. They are no willing to pay the price for success: The road to success is uphill all the way. Anyone who wants to accomplish much must sacrifice much.

Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a high school about 11 Rules they did not and will not learn in school. He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world.

Rule 1: Life is not fair—get used to it!

Rule 2: The world won’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault, so don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent’s generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they’ll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one.

1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day…And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate anti-depressant.

2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.

3. Buy a DVR and tape your late night shows and get more sleep.

4. When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement, “My purpose is to __________ today.”

5. Live with the 3 Es: Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.

6. Play more games and read more books than you did last year.

7. Make time to practice meditation, and prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.

8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.

9. Dream more while you are awake.

10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.

11. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, wild Alaskan salmon, broccoli, almonds & walnuts.

12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.

13. Clear clutter from your house, your car, your desk and let new and flowing energy into your life.

14. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip, OR issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.

15. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

16. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed-out charge card.

17. Smile and laugh more. It will keep the NEGATIVE BLUES away.

18. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

20. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

21. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

22. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.

23. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

25. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In 5 years, will this matter?”

26. Forgive everyone for everything.

27. What other people think of you is none of your business.

28. REMEMBER GOD heals everything.

29. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

30. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

31. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

32. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

33. The best is yet to come.

34. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

35. Do the right thing!

36. Call your family often (or e-mail them to death!).

37. Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements: I am thankful for __________. Today, I accomplished _________.

38. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.

39. Enjoy the ride. Remember this is not Disney World and you certainly don’t want a fast pass. You only have one ride through life so make the most of it and enjoy the ride.

40. Forward this to everyone you care about.

May your troubles be less, May your blessings be more, May nothing but happiness come through your door!

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“Don’t sweat the small stuff. Remember, it’s all small stuff.”

Life can be tough on a person. It can be tough on a family. So many people lack the mental ability to hang in there in the tough times. You can control your thoughts. You can practice perspective by changing the way you interpret your circumstances, situations, and environments. “The task is not to see a new world but to see the world with new eyes.” The person who can change the way they view their world will win without fail.

John Milton said, “The mind in itself, in its own place, can make a hell out of heaven and heaven out of hell.” You will experience in life the results of the dominant thoughts within your mind.

Don’t believe it? Let me tell you a story.

A stranger chanced upon several workers in a small town in Italy. Curious and interested, he began to inquire from the workers as to what they were doing. “I’m laying bricks”, said the first worker. After a few minutes of idle chat, he asked of another, “What are you doing? Laying bricks, eh?” The other worker, somewhat indignantly responded, with shoulders straight and firmness of voice, “Laying bricks? No, sir. I am building a cathedral.” Both workers were working on the same job. One saw his tasks as laying brick upon brick upon brick, while the other one saw a work being offered to the Glory of God.

Two people, two perspectives! Why is it that some salespeople choose to see the worst in a situation while others choose to see the best in the same situation? Why do some people constantly see what’s gone wrong while others look for what’s right? Which one do you think will succeed further on this great journey we’re on?

Everyone has obstacles. Everyone needs perspective in the face of those challenges. Your response to dealing with the storms of life will dictate the results you achieve. What follows are practical solutions to dealing with those times in life when everything seems to be going the opposite to your preferences.

Challenges of life will come. The only place on earth that we know of where there are no problems is a cemetery. Everywhere else will be hit by the storms of life. If you remember that there is something to learn in every problem, then you can learn to grow by the storms rather than being crushed by them.

W. Mitchell said, “It’s not what happens to us that counts, it’s what happens in us.” He was right and he should know. His story of courage (he was seriously burned and later survived a plane crash that left him paralyzed) is an inspiration of someone who has sought to become better through adversity. Mitchell is probably one of the most ‘up’ people on the planet, largely due to the lessons he learned about life and how to live it while recuperating from his injuries.

Take a good look at the obstacles in your path. Instead of cursing them and wishing them away, ask yourself what you can learn from your situation. How can you become a better person through your obstacles? Someone once said that we go on experiencing life’s lessons until we learn what we need to learn, and then we can move on. Remember, above every stormy cloud is a bright sun which never fades.

There is something to learn in every adversity!

Hang In There And Find the Gem

There are two sides to every coin. The Chinese call this the Yin/Yang principle. Every negative has a positive opposite. You just have to look for it. One person’s disaster will become the vehicle for another person to become wealthy. See your challenges in life as blessings in disguise and try to uncover the hidden opportunities.

During the Great Depression, not everyone went belly-up. Some people actually became rich. When you see a problem, you also need to see an opportunity. One of the fastest ways to become wealthy is to solve someone’s problems or difficulties.

Many successful businesses today have been born out of someone’s problem. Take the man who took surplus sawdust from the lumber mills free of charge and formulated several wood-burning products from it. He saw that lumber yards had a problem with excess sawdust. They didn’t know what to do with it. He acted and began a wonderful business.

“If it’s going to be… It’s up to me.”

Hang In There And Be Patient

Every problem will go away. Either it will change or you will. No problem is permanent. It can’t be permanent because everything is in a constant state of flux; everything changes. Worry is useless. Instead, of being ready to give in, just remember that every problem has a limited lifespan. Things will get better. Seek to grow.

“Tough times never last, but tough people do.” - Robert Schuller

How about Communism? Or the Berlin Wall? Who could have guessed that within days, the entire Berlin Wall could be demolished? Within weeks, Communism would crumble. A problem which many people feared would plague the earth for centuries disappeared in a flash.

Look at your problem and ask, “Will this matter in five years from now?” “What about next year?”

“Worry is like a rocking chair; it will give you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.”

Hang In There And Think

THERE ARE NO PROBLEMS, THERE’S ONLY A SHORTAGE OF IDEAS.

Problems are not the problem. Ideas are the problem. Every single problem, challenge, or storm you face today has as its solution an idea waiting to be used. If you could only understand that the only thing standing between your current problem and the wiping away of it is nothing but an idea.

So get your eyes off your problems and onto the solution. You may not be able to do anything about what has happened, but you surely can and should do something about finding a solution. That solution may seem like a fantasy right now, but keep in mind that the airplane was nothing but a fantasy until two brothers starting searching for ideas to solve their fantasy. Fantasies can become facts.

It was Christmas Eve. The large country church was filling up. The air was worshipful and festive. Families came from far and wide to enjoy the majestic organ playing the beautiful carol of the holidays. But suddenly a problem arose.

The service was about to begin when the organist discovered that a church mouse had chewed through the inner workings of the massive air chamber. With only minutes to spare, the organist quickly composed a replacement carol which he played on his old acoustic guitar.

The cords were simple and the melody sweet. That evening was the first time the world had ever heard the famous carol Silent Night. By focusing on the solution instead of the problem, the end result was spectacular.

Hang In There And Be Grateful

EVERYONE HAS PROBLEMS.

“The man with no shoes grumbled in the street, until he met the man with no feet.”

You’re not alone. Even the most together people have storms to face. In fact, the people who are winning the most in life often have the biggest challenges in front of them. The people who win the most in life are often the biggest risk-takers.

Since you’re not alone, why not align yourself with others who may be facing what you are facing? You could perhaps solve your problems together.

Upon returning from an extended international business trip, I had an overwhelming amount of urgent telephone messages to respond to. Most of the calls were from successful business contacts or partners who were waiting upon my direction for projects we were working on at the time. It was the last thing I wanted to deal with; I was tired and just wanted to relax, but I had to.

I quickly put things into perspective when I realized that this is a problem I would have given anything to have only a few years ago. I was successful and people wanted to work with me. My point is that the more successful we become, the greater the challenge. Never forget that the greater the obstacle, the greater the opportunity.

Gerry Robert is a bestselling author of “The Millionaire Mindset” and a seminar speaker.

Time comes when we are asked to speak without any warning: we could be asked for our opinion at a meeting or we have to deliver a toast at a wedding. Impromptu speeches for most of us are harder to make than prepared oral presentations. We are forced to think on our feet and have no time to prepare. Here is how we can make these experiences more positive:

1. Condition yourself mentally to speak impromptu on all occasions.

If you’re in a meeting keep asking yourself what you would say if you were called upon at that specific moment.

2. Get into an example immediately.

There are three reasons for this. 1) You will free yourself at once of the necessity to think hard about your next sentence, for experiences are easily recounted even in impromptu situations. 2) You will enlist in the audience’s attention right away. 3) You will give yourself an opportunity to warm up to the subject.

3. Speak with animation and force.

Your body and mind are interconnected, so if you speak with energy, your external animation will have a beneficial effect upon your mental processes. It also projects enthusiasm to the listeners, which makes your speech a lot more interesting.

4. Don’t talk impromptu; give an impromptu talk.

It is not enough just to ramble on and string together a number of unconnected events. You must keep your ideas logically grouped around a central thought, which is the point that you’re trying to get across. Your examples should support the central idea.

Contributed by Dale Carnegie Training.

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Here are my recommendations for accelerating your progress toward your goals:

1. Don’t waste your time on unimportant, trivial things.

2. Focus on tasks that are important and contribute to your success.

3. Treasure your time like, as Dan Kennedy says, the gold in Fort Knox.

4. Get busy. Most successful people I know are busy.

5. Work hard. Whoever said “work smart, not hard,” was wrong. Successful people work smart and hard.

6. Focus on what you do best. Farm out everything else.

7. Don’t feel you have to do something just because someone asks you. Learn to say no.

8. Set priorities, because your bandwidth, like everyone else’s, is limited.

9. Become obsessed with ROTI—Return On Time Invested—for every activity you undertake.

10. There is plenty of success advice out there from people who are not successful. Ignore it.

Bob Bly is the author of “World’s Best Copywriting Secrets” and has written copy for more than 100 companies including IBM, Boardroom, Medical Economics and AT&T. He is the author of more than 75 books and a columnist for Target Marketing, Early To Rise and The Writer. McGraw-Hill calls him “America’s top copywriter”.

A few weeks ago, I wrote about how it used to stymie me when a subscriber would ask whether they should do something—like quit their job or start a home business.

But an even tougher question you guys ask me is “What should I do?”

The question is usually followed by a list of 3 to 5 choices, of which the subscriber expects me to pick one for her.

Listen: I can’t tell you what to do. That’s your choice.

But I can give you some guidelines for deciding what to do on your own.

The first consideration is money. It’s simple: come up with the annual income you need to live the lifestyle you wish.

Then eliminate the options on your wish list that can’t fulfill that requirement.

If none of them do, you must either consider other options or find a way to make one of the options pay off better. For instance, if you desire to be a freelance writer, write for higher-paying markets.

Next, do what I call a “self-inventory”. Ask yourself:

>> What am I passionate about?

>> What do I enjoy?

>> How would I like to spend my days?

>> What do I have an aptitude for?

>> What am I trained or educated in?

>> What is my work experience?

>> What product or service can I provide that others would pay for?

>> What have I done that others have praised me for?

Usually one or two items on your wish list will fit well with your self-inventory answers, and of those, only one will deliver your target income.

Then you have to decide.

For me, the most important criteria were:

1) Money: I needed to make enough money to provide for my family and send two kids to college. I had no trust fund and will receive no significant inheritance.

2) How I spend my days: I wanted to spend my days alone, in my home office, at my PC, writing.

My personal definition of success, for me—yours may be different—is: doing what I want to do, when and where I want to do it, and getting paid well for it.

By “well” I had a figure in mind that was a multiple of the earnings of acquaintances in town—mainly husbands of my wife’s friends—who either have small businesses or work in highly paid executive positions.

No choice you make will be ideal. Every business and profession has its pros and cons.

To me the trick is to pick something remunerative enough to meet your income goal while enjoyable enough to make you want to go into the office in the morning.

Another priority of mine is to avoid boredom. I believe most of my subscribers share this desire—probably you, too.

One of the cruelest fates is to spend your days doing a job you detest for a boss or company you don’t like—and being unable to quit because you need the money.

I see two ways out of this. The first is to move to a different job function (i.e., from purchasing agent to product manager) or change companies or industries.

The second is to start some type of self-employment, whether freelancing or running a small business.

Many people dream of the second option and spend years considering it, but fear holds them back.

I have previously paraphrased a wise therapist who once told me what it takes to get moving.

He said: you won’t make a change until the pain of your current situation—whether boredom, lack of money, lack of fulfillment, dislike of your boss—outweighs your fear of making a change.

As a rule, that either happens or it doesn’t.

Bob Bly is the author of “World’s Best Copywriting Secrets” and has written copy for more than 100 companies including IBM, Boardroom, Medical Economics and AT&T. He is the author of more than 75 books and a columnist for Target Marketing, Early To Rise and The Writer. McGraw-Hill calls him “America’s top copywriter”.

To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 42 lessons life taught me. It is the most important thing I’ve ever written.

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short—enjoy it.

4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. Save for retirement starting with your first pay check.

9. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

10. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

11. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

12. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

13. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it…

14 Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

15. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.

16. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

17. It’s never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.

18. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

19. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

20. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

21. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

22. The most important organ on your body is the brain.

23. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

24. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In 5 years, will this matter?’

25. Always choose life.

26. Forgive but don’t forget.

27. What other people think of you is none of your business.

28. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

29. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

30. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

31. Believe in miracles.

32. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

33. Growing old beats the alternative—dying young.

34. Your children get only one childhood.

35. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

36. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

37. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

38. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have not what you need.

39. The best is yet to come…

40. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

41. Yield.

42. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

BONUS: Friends are the family that we choose!

1. Try to see things from the other person’s point of view.

Your colleagues may be comparing your ideas to theirs. Try to see your proposal from their perspectives. Imagine the questions that your co-workers may have, and how you would answer them.

2. Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.

Understand that your colleagues can be just as enthusiastic regarding their work as much as yourself. Being receptive to their opinions can bring on a new perspective you haven’t considered, and will assist your colleagues in keeping an open mind to your ideas once they realize you are sincerely interested in theirs. Perhaps you can even incorporate each other’s suggestions into your project.

3. Show respect for the other person’s opinion.

Never say, “You’re wrong.” Your colleagues have their own views and ideas and want to be heard as much as you do. While their views may differ from your own, that doesn’t necessarily make them incorrect or useless. Negative comments will create defensive walls, create arguments, and essentially cause others to tune out. Be attentive to what your colleagues are saying, and sincerely consider their proposals.

4. Dramatize your ideas.

Be enthusiastic about the work you’ve done and back up your work with facts and examples. Your colleagues will appreciate your well-thought plan and your enthusiasm, and give it the credibility it deserves.

By incorporating these techniques in your next meeting, you will begin to gain respect from your colleagues for your suggestions and learn to become a better listener as well.

Contributed by Dale Carnegie Training.

Most people lack direction in their lives. They don’t give any time to considering what they really want out of life. They accept what is sent their way. They accept their results as a fact of life. What if things could be different? They can!

Ask any poor senior citizen if they wrote out clear, measurable goals for their lives when they were younger. You can imagine what the answer will be. Now, for contrast, ask a person who reaches the golden years without any financial worries. People who reach this period of life financially fit have probably developed and stuck with a plan which included goal setting.

Potential

We can do so much more than we give ourselves credit for. We have an incredible, unlimited resource available to us. It would shock the average person if they knew just how much they could achieve in life if they but tried, if they used what they had available. Because most people do not understand how much potential they have, they limit their aspirations to the level at which they know they can presently achieve.

It is well known that a sudden fright or danger will release every particle of energy to perform incredible feats of strength. A number of years ago, a Los Angeles newspaper published an amazing story of a woman named Francis Avita. She was a frail 100-pound woman who lifted an automobile, the portion of which weighed over 900 pounds, off the head of her brother, and saved his life. Lifting that automobile would have been an incredible feat for even a rugged 200-pound football player, but she summoned up superhuman strength upon the command of her mind.

If you could have anything you wanted in life, what would it be? If you could do anything you wanted, or be whatever you wanted, what would you choose?

Understand this, you can have, do, or be, anything you want.

A colleague, Dr. Lee Pulos, a clinical psychologist and leading authority in the area of the mind, reports that in order for change to occur, there are three basic elements that must be present: Desire, Expectation, and Imagination. Let’s look at these elements.

1. Desire

You must want something to change. Desire is the unexpressed possibility of an idea wishing to be expressed. Don’t limit your desires to what you think you can have. You must give yourself a chance to dream and to risk.

When an Egyptian shepherd boy was given charge of a flock of sheep, he was told, “The pool on the other side of the hill is for emergency only. Its water is limited, so don’t use it unless other sources dry up.” An extremely hot spell brought on the emergency, so the boy led his flock to the pool. Although the sheep drank from the pool all day long, the water maintained its original level.

The shepherd investigated the strange situation and made a curious discovery: the pool was fed by an underground stream. As the water was removed from the top of the pool, the underground pressure was activated into streaming upward. In other words, the pool had a constant and limitless source of supply.

A man’s desire or mental powers are also limitless. “Then why,” comes the logical question, “do the majority of men and women lead such limited lives?” The answer can also be found in the story of the pool: the majority of men and women never really investigate their potentialities.

They wrongly assume that what they presently do is all that they can ever do. They falsely believe that tomorrow must be as unsuccessful as today. So, they sadly accept self-limitation. And as long as people accept limitation, they will not be motivated to discover the great opportunities that lie ahead of them.

Desire is the missing element to open the door to their wealth.

2. Expectation

You must know and expect that what you are doing will work with repetition. Never desire something you don’t expect and never expect something you don’t desire. A young man who experienced great misfortune confessed that he bought an astrology magazine that morning. It said that there was great danger of an automobile accident, and to be very careful.

The young man said that he was charged with fear, and shook all over when he read it. He didn’t want to drive that day, but he had to go to an important audition and the only way to go was by car. He had three accidents that day, injuring one man seriously. He was suffering from shock himself, and also received some contusions and lacerations. His car was badly damaged.

“What I greatly fear has come upon me,” Job said in the Bible. His great fear brought on these accidents. He planted seeds of fear in his mind, and harvested the results in his life.

Robert Schuller once asked, “What great thing would you attempt if you knew that you couldn’t fail?”

3. Imagination

Create mental movies of your desired goal. It’s just as easy to dream for a supermarket as it is for a loaf of bread. Your goals may center on physical, mental, monetary, or personal growth. You can work with many different goals simultaneously, but you must work through a series of steps in programming each goal for successful attainment.

A number of years ago, in a European nation, an extraordinary event occurred. Scientists were given permission to experiment on a criminal who was sentenced to death.

The criminal was informed that he was to bleed to death. He was placed on a table, with his eyes blindfolded. A small incision was made on his arm, but not deep enough to actually allow blood to flow. A small stream of warm running water was allowed to trickle down his arm into a basin, which he felt and heard distinctly.

The scientists began making remarks on the progress of the bleeding and his growing weakness. They commented on how the man was now approaching death. The man died in a short time, and suffered all the symptoms of a person who had bled to death. His subconscious mind actually created a reality based on false information from his imagination.

Gerry Robert is a bestselling author of “The Millionaire Mindset” and a seminar speaker.

Ted Nicholas, Russ Dalbey, and other success writers have in numerous publications identified—accurately, in my opinion—the 4 elements needed to attain a happy life:

1. Relationships: You need to have family and friends—people you love and people you like.

John Donne said “No man is an island.” Even introverts, loners, and recluses need people in their lives and interaction with them.

Having friends not only makes people happy but can even improve mental health: A study from the Harvard School of Public Health found that people with the most active social lives had the slowest rate of memory decline.

I have a few good friends, but I am not very social, and I don’t see them much. We communicate mainly by phone and e-mail.

My wife and I both feel that our two sons, Alex and Stephen, are the center of our life.

2. Money: Mark Twain did NOT, as many people believe, say that money is the root of all evil. What Twain really said was: “Lack of money is the root of all evil.”

Many people erroneously believe that rich people think of nothing but money.

The fact is that those who think constantly about money are those who do not have enough of it. I’ve seen this up close: I have relatives who are bankrupt, and every discussion comes around to lack of money and how it hamstrings them in daily life.

Like many people, I grew up without much money. We were not poor, but many others we knew obviously had more than we did. But I never had to worry where my next meal would come from literally, because my mother is a great cook.

3. Work: Next to my family, there is nothing as key to my happiness than loving the work I do.

In my early life I held corporate jobs. I did not like working in a corporation, and the days passed with glacial speed.

I have been a full-time freelance copywriter since 1982, and it is still loads of fun to me every day I do it. What could be better than that? Conversely, to me there are few things worse in life than hating your job.

Thomas Carlyle: “Blessed is he who has found his work; let him ask no other blessedness.”

Noel Coward: “Work is more fun than fun.”

4. Health: It is impossible to fully enjoy life if you are seriously ill or even sick a lot of the time.

There is more health advice out there today than at any time in human history. The trick is evaluating the source and knowing what to listen to.

I have said in other e-mails that if you wake up in the morning, and you are in good health and have a roof over your head, it’s a good day.

I know this from having several health scares with my wife, including the time she was misdiagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer and told (erroneously) that she had only months to live. Our whole world was destroyed by that one sentence until, many weeks later, we found out she was OK.

I find that enjoying the 4 conditions listed above is not a given. Most of us have to work for them, me included. Here’s what I recommend:

>> Family - treasure your spouse and your children. Spend lots of time with your children when they are young and still want you.

>> Friends - don’t let lack of time make friendships disappear. Make a proactive effort to reach out to and stay in touch with friends. In this I often fail.

>> Money - make it a goal to become financially comfortable. I suggest you create a plan to amass a $2 million net worth by age 55. That is made easier by earning an annual income of $200,000 or more.

>> Work - find the intersection of your passion and the needs of the marketplace. As Aristotle said, “Therein lies your vocation.” In other words, find something you love that others will pay you handsomely for. Dr. Seuss points out: “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose.”

>> Health - guys especially, don’t avoid going to the doctor because you’re afraid or you are being macho. When in his 60s, my father waited too long to have a lump on his leg examined. When he finally went to the doctor, it turned out to be sarcoma, and he died 18 months later after a prolonged and painful illness. During my dad’s long decline, no one in our immediate family was very happy.

Bob Bly is the author of “World’s Best Copywriting Secrets” and has written copy for more than 100 companies including IBM, Boardroom, Medical Economics and AT&T. He is the author of more than 75 books and a columnist for Target Marketing, Early To Rise and The Writer. McGraw-Hill calls him “America’s top copywriter”.

The question that has always vexed me most is when a subscriber writes and asks:

“Should I become a freelance copywriter?”

“Should I start an Internet marketing business?”

“Should I [fill in the blank here]?”

Now, if you ask me HOW to do these things, I can give you some solid guidance.

But if someone asked me SHOULD they do this or that, I used to throw up my hands and say – “How can I tell you that? It’s entirely up to you!”

However, when I was reading the New York Review of Books (3/7/13, p. 46) last week, I came across a quote in an article by the late Isaiah Berlin that I think gives a useful answer to the question of “Should I?”

Berlin wrote: “One chooses as one chooses because (1) one knows what one wants, and (2) is ready to pay the price.” (I added the numbers.)

As for the first reason, (1) choosing because “one knows what one wants”, I would argue that you already know what you want or you wouldn’t be asking me if you should do it.

Conversely, if you have spent years thinking about a thing and have taken no forward action, you probably don’t want it that badly.

It reminds me of a story about Mozart.

Supposedly a young man in his late teens or so approached Mozart and said “Maestro! I want to write a symphony! Please, please teach me how to write a symphony!”

Mozart looked him over and said, “You’re too young to write a symphony.”

“But Maestro Mozart, you wrote a symphony when you were 12 years old,” the teen pointed out.

“Yes, but I didn’t have to ask how!” Mozart replied.

If you really want to do a thing, you will pursue it and do it. If not, then not. You won’t have to ask me or anyone else whether you should.

The second part of Berlin’s statement says that you will choose something if you are (2) “ready to pay the price”.

This price may be:

** Long years of education, practice, or apprenticeship before attaining your wish.

** Facing the possibility that, after all that time and effort and investment, you may not succeed.

** Taking a financial gamble as you invest in your new venture or dream—a gamble you could lose.

** Sacrificing time with family, leisure time, and other activities in the relentless pursuit of your vision.

** Risking the disapproval of friends and family who do not support you in your quest and say you are foolish to do it.

** Becoming so successful that you alienate those friends and family members who are less successful and resent your accomplishment.

** Taking so long to reach your goal that by the time you achieve it the other pleasures of life have passed you by and now you are too old to enjoy your success anyway.

If after reading the above list with your eyes wide open, you agree that these are prices you are willing to pay to achieve your dreams, then I encourage you to go full steam ahead.

On the other hand, if you quiver with fear after reading this list or want to put your head under the covers, you may not have the constitution required for entrepreneurial or artistic ventures or similar grand aims. And perhaps you are better off staying where and as you are.

One other observation: a psychologist once told me people do not take action until the pain of their current condition—whether poverty, boredom, fear, or unhappiness—exceeds their fear of change.

I think his observation is right on the money.

Bob Bly is the author of “World’s Best Copywriting Secrets” and has written copy for more than 100 companies including IBM, Boardroom, Medical Economics and AT&T. He is the author of more than 75 books and a columnist for Target Marketing, Early To Rise and The Writer. McGraw-Hill calls him “America’s top copywriter”.

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Does the thought of speaking in front of a group make you squirm?

If so, you’re not alone: According to levelupliving.com, 75% of the population has a fear of public speaking.

Yet speaking in front of a group can advance your career and build your reputation as an expert in your field. So what can you do?

Here are a few tips to alleviate the fear and make you a more confident presenter:

1. Prepare twice as much material as you need.

Some audiences participate actively, and the back-and-forth takes time. Therefore, in such cases, filling the time is no problem.

On the other hand, a non-responsive audience means you’ll go through your lecture more quickly, and as a result, risk running out of material before the allotted time is up.

The solution? Prepare twice as much material as you think you’ll need. That way, the fear of being left with lots of time and nothing to say is eliminated.

Nicholson Baker writes in a blog post for the New York Review of Books: “The worst dreams I have these days are ones in which I have to go on stage and give a talk in front of an audience of smart attentive people, and I’m unprepared.

“I’m supposed to be full of wisdom on some specialized topic, say, Voltaire’s voluminous correspondence with Stanislaw Lem, and my brain races to remember what I have to say on this subject, which is nothing.”

2. Prepare worksheets for the audience.

Have activities that help audience members build and practice the skill you are teaching.

As an added benefit, they shift the burden of action from you to your students, giving you a mini-rest break during an otherwise intensive seminar.

Of course, you should already have a teacher’s version of the exercise with the answers on it.

3. Show a video.

In the movie “Bad Teacher”, Cameron Diaz avoids doing any real teaching by continually showing movies to her high school English class.

You shouldn’t be a bad teacher, but in a one or two-day class, I often like to show one or two educational videos, which typically run 15 to 20 minutes each.

The videos can help teach parts of the main topic that you may not be particularly strong on.

In addition, they allow you to step out of the room for 5 or 10 minutes, take a break, and mentally regroup before you continue your lesson.

4. Bring in a guest expert.

I was once flattered to be asked to speak at a direct marketing class taught by MH, one of my colleagues…until I realized that one reason for my being there was for MH to do less work!

Having a guest expert treats your audience to a fresh point of view. But it also offloads speaking duties from you to your guest speakers.

MH taught a 10-week course and had 3 different guest speakers each teach one session. Therefore he reduced his teaching load by 30%.

5. Beware of small classes.

The smaller the number of attendees, the less interaction there is between the students. If you get a small group that lacks participation, you can burn through your prepared materials quickly.

I like to have a minimum of 15 students in any training classes and at least 25 attendees at lunch or evening speeches. Fewer dampen the energy in the room.

Bob Bly is the author of “World’s Best Copywriting Secrets” and has written copy for more than 100 companies including IBM, Boardroom, Medical Economics and AT&T. He is the author of more than 75 books and a columnist for Target Marketing, Early To Rise and The Writer. McGraw-Hill calls him “America’s top copywriter”.

1. Uninspiring goals: make the goal the feeling you will get when you achieve the thing rather than the thing itself.

2. Fear of failure: if you’re afraid of failing, you won’t take the necessary risks required to achieve your goal.

3. Fear of success: you are worried that even if you achieve something spectacular, like enormous wealth, it still won’t make you happy.

4. An unrealistic timetable: most people overestimate what they can do in a week and underestimate what they can do in a year.

5. Worrying about getting stuck: a plateau is almost always a sign that you’re on the brink of a major breakthrough. Have patience!

Source: The Ziglar Weekly Newsletter, 2/13/13.