If I could sum up my views on communication, it would be this: “Communication is the result you get.”
What this means, is that if someone has totally understood your point, and can explain back to you what you just said in their own words, you’ve communicated effectively.
I’m sure you’re familiar with this kind of scenario…
You’ve sat down to have a conversation with your wife/husband, friend, colleague, boss…whoever, and no matter how hard you try, what you are saying is just totally misconstrued and misunderstood by them.
Or is it?
You see, when you look at communication as “the result you get”, which is the essence of this principle, what this principle does, is give you ownership over the interactions with other people in your life.
It eliminates the need to walk away from someone and say “they don’t understand me!” and transforms it to an element of power, in the shape of “they aren’t understanding what I’m saying, how can I explain it in a way that makes sense to them”.
Instantly this gives you back the power you would have normally lost.
Now, am I saying that this is easy? No, effective communication is one of the hardest principles to follow, and has to be constantly worked at.
What it all boils down to, is think about it from the other person’s perspective, and constantly be asking yourself the question “how can I say this in a way that they will understand”.